She's not actually big. Tall maybe, with large natural breasts, and a bit of jiggle in her step, but she's not a big girl. In case you've been sleeping the past week or so, I'm talking about 20 year old buxom beauty, Kate Upton. This blond bombshell, with the pouty lips, soft curves, and long legs that women and men alike crave, has recently been the center of some rather disturbing shit-talking. No joke. She's been called fat.

Not just fat, either. Apparently Kate is "well marbled" and "lazy, and lardy" according to skinnygossip.com, a blog intended to be a support blog for thin girls. Now, I am all for women of a certain body type helping other women of that body type to feel good about themselves. However, upon visiting the site you find the support goes beyond a few dieting and work out tips, to straight up fat bashing. Its a hate machine akin to the Third Reich. Ok, maybe that's not entirely fair. These girls don't want to kill all the fatties...they just don't ever want to have to see them, or be exposed to them,  or accept that they might be worthwhile individuals, and definitely don't want them in the world of high fashion, where drug use and eating disorders have ruled the scene for decades.  

Skinnygossip.com claims they in no way support unhealthy lifestyles. They do not advocate starvation, or binging/purging, and are open about the fact that many of their members are recovering from eating disorders. Again, I find myself confused. I've recovered from countless acts of self destructive behavior, but never has hatred towards someone else been the cure...and it never will be. Promoting hate of any kind is unhealthy and destructive.

Now, some of you reading this may think "Well wait a minute...she says not to hate, but it seems like she really hates these skinny girls." Often the problem with arguing points like these, are the negative emotions behind the opinions. So, yes I am upset that the blog exists, and that its actually full of members who feel this way. I don't hate these girls. I feel sad for them. The mindset that underexposed rib bones, or thighs bigger than your arms means a person is lazy and ugly only means that one day, when you've put on a few due to no fault of your own, you're going hate yourself. It breaks my heart. 

"Thinspo is your best friend. You think you’ve lost weight? Check out some fashion models or skinny celebrities online and you’ll realize that you can probably do better." 

I spent many years a self-hating, overweight, fat, lazy slob...til I filled my life with people who love and care about me, and filled my closet with adorable clothing. I work out intensely 5 days a week, and spend most weekends on my feet. I eat healthy food that is also incredibly delicious, and substantial. One day my boyfriend will finally stop going grocery shopping with me because he'll have grown entirely too bored of standing around while I meticulously inspect nutrition information. Despite all this, I still carry extra weight on my lower half. I always will. To skinnygirl.com, I will always be lazy, lardy, and not beautiful. To myself, my friends, my family (and countless strangers on the street, holla!) I am gorgeous. 

Beauty is not measured in inches and pounds, and the members of skinnygirl.com who actively participate in promoting self hate, and hatred towards others are ugly. Like, evil witch ugly. 

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Comment by Cari Egnew on July 19, 2012 at 8:24am

Lardy????  She looks HEALTHY!  She doesn't look like a slight breeze would blow her over and she doesn't have that rabid hungry look in her eye that I've noticed on the starving looking little waifs that tend to be on the catwalk.  It's this kind of thing that just makes me sad for my pre-teen daughter and realize even more that I was born in the wrong era.

Comment by Angel TD on July 19, 2012 at 3:11pm

As a bigger girl, It makes me sad that people are allowed to proliferate such hate. I've gone from a size 26 to a 12 but I don't think I'll ever be a 4. It's not my genetic makeup. I've found that most men appreciate a woman that is real- and that embracing your size and being healthy is much more sexy and confident than ruining your teeth by being bulimic or being a mean bi&?! because  you are starving yourself to death. I mentor many young girls through my art career and I always try to encourage a healthy self esteem and make my students look inward to see that beauty comes from character not fashion or others opinions. This kind of stuff is ruining the future women of the world. SAD.. ;(

Comment by Annie Ulukou on July 19, 2012 at 4:58pm
"Its not my genetic makeup"...exactly!! First of all, a world where every single woman looked like a young Twiggy would make for a rather boring planet, so the idea that all women should be thin all over is just silly. But even if we wanted that world, we couldn't have it. I'm five feet tall with wide hips and broad shoulders. If I starved myself, I would still have big hips....and I'd be starving, so that's no fun.
Comment by Jinny on July 20, 2012 at 2:29am

Oh my god, I just went and checked out this website skinny gossip. Everything I read is so incredibly upsetting. In one comment thread Skinny girl responds to the advice of a girl who is 5'7" regarding what would be a good weight to diet for and she told her 90 pounds! 90 freaking pounds! That is unreal. 

Comment by Glam Monster on July 20, 2012 at 12:30pm

 

It’s horrible that the social world like TV, mags, and books boost the image of starved models or even going as far as photo shopping people so they seems way skinner then they really are. I'm super tiny but I would never hate on anyone, so hearing that there is a blog about this is just heart breaking. It just goes to show that there will always be people who don't like others. But I do feel like the social world has an influence on people judging anyone who doesn't have their rib cage and spine showing (I think that’s the image of the unhealthy skinny they protray, I could be wrong).These years beauty is shown as stick figures with fake everything, bring back the curves and the real women in movies and mags then the stick figures will be hated. It’s weird how the world works. Everyone is beautiful in their own way!

Comment by Laura Byrnes on July 21, 2012 at 10:39am
That blog is run by a self-hating troll. This blog is quite obviously set up to be a disruptive counterpoint to the current wave of sanity hitting the body acceptance movement. DO NOT - i repeat, DO NOT let anything written here upset you. Laugh at it, mock it, parody it, yes! Show the silliness of it all through satire. Example: try commenting on the blog with something like "The bigger girl looks like she had a well-balanced meal today, I think she's the one who has to be worried about being eaten by her hungry friend there lol"

Seriously guys, I practically have a Masters in Troll Neutralization (still working on final thesis) <3
Comment by Laura Byrnes on July 21, 2012 at 10:42am
We need to stop asking ourselves questions like "Why are mean people mean", and start asking questions like "How can we make it not fun for mean people to be mean", or "Shouldn't we be laughing our asses off at people like this instead of giving them power and legitimacy", also "If their views are wrong and stupid, maybe we should show this through comedy"

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