She's not actually big. Tall maybe, with large natural breasts, and a bit of jiggle in her step, but she's not a big girl. In case you've been sleeping the past week or so, I'm talking about 20 year old buxom beauty, Kate Upton. This blond bombshell, with the pouty lips, soft curves, and long legs that women and men alike crave, has recently been the center of some rather disturbing shit-talking. No joke. She's been called fat.
Not just fat, either. Apparently Kate is "well marbled" and "lazy, and lardy" according to skinnygossip.com, a blog intended to be a support blog for thin girls. Now, I am all for women of a certain body type helping other women of that body type to feel good about themselves. However, upon visiting the site you find the support goes beyond a few dieting and work out tips, to straight up fat bashing. Its a hate machine akin to the Third Reich. Ok, maybe that's not entirely fair. These girls don't want to kill all the fatties...they just don't ever want to have to see them, or be exposed to them, or accept that they might be worthwhile individuals, and definitely don't want them in the world of high fashion, where drug use and eating disorders have ruled the scene for decades.
Skinnygossip.com claims they in no way support unhealthy lifestyles. They do not advocate starvation, or binging/purging, and are open about the fact that many of their members are recovering from eating disorders. Again, I find myself confused. I've recovered from countless acts of self destructive behavior, but never has hatred towards someone else been the cure...and it never will be. Promoting hate of any kind is unhealthy and destructive.
Now, some of you reading this may think "Well wait a minute...she says not to hate, but it seems like she really hates these skinny girls." Often the problem with arguing points like these, are the negative emotions behind the opinions. So, yes I am upset that the blog exists, and that its actually full of members who feel this way. I don't hate these girls. I feel sad for them. The mindset that underexposed rib bones, or thighs bigger than your arms means a person is lazy and ugly only means that one day, when you've put on a few due to no fault of your own, you're going hate yourself. It breaks my heart.
"Thinspo is your best friend. You think you’ve lost weight? Check out some fashion models or skinny celebrities online and you’ll realize that you can probably do better."
I spent many years a self-hating, overweight, fat, lazy slob...til I filled my life with people who love and care about me, and filled my closet with adorable clothing. I work out intensely 5 days a week, and spend most weekends on my feet. I eat healthy food that is also incredibly delicious, and substantial. One day my boyfriend will finally stop going grocery shopping with me because he'll have grown entirely too bored of standing around while I meticulously inspect nutrition information. Despite all this, I still carry extra weight on my lower half. I always will. To skinnygirl.com, I will always be lazy, lardy, and not beautiful. To myself, my friends, my family (and countless strangers on the street, holla!) I am gorgeous.
Beauty is not measured in inches and pounds, and the members of skinnygirl.com who actively participate in promoting self hate, and hatred towards others are ugly. Like, evil witch ugly.