I have been having a situation with somebody (actually on this page) that has been having an emotional affair with my husband. He told me about it months ago and after going back and forth through anger and pain, he has been telling me what she has been doing. She is also married and has been denying flirting and putting it out there to him to everybody. They work together:( I have no trust for him right now, but he has been telling me what she has been doing and it is not okay. She wouldn't return a very nice call i left her asking to tell me her side, because all i was getting was his. Why wouldn't another married woman not want to tell a fellow woman that was nothing going on to reassure her? I sent texts asking her to please stay away from him, that we have two babies and her relationship with him is uprooting my marriage and our family. She called the cops on me for telephonic harrasment.....Why would she do that? I am extremely upset about all this. Anybody have any advice?
Oh wow, Ruby - I'm so sorry to hear you're going through a rough time with your hubby. I have no advice for you, nor can I answer your original question but I wanted you to know that you have my support whatever you do.
I went through something similar with my other half last year, it was difficult between us for a while, but we got through it with lots of talking. The 'other woman' claimed total innocence in all of it - she was getting married in a fortnight how could she be flirting and coming on to him??(!!!!).
It took a lot of talking, time, and changes (primarily on his part, but some were me) before things were right again, and I could trust him as I did before this happened.
I think that in some cases, women desire what they cannot have, and that leads to 'married men', it's the same phenomenon in vice versa. In other time's it's because they're looking for the thrill of the chase and being single again,
Neither of these are very good reasons.
I think that the person you should be discussing things with is HIM not Her. Because he, being in a relationship with you, is conciously choosing to neglect you and his commitment to you in favor of another woman. Because he is the one with the obligation to you and not her, it is his fault and not hers. If he asks her to stop and completely rejects her then she will most likely stop.
I may be wrong but that's my opinion. I hope you work it out and I hope the lady in question sees the error of her ways. Stealing or attempting to steal another gal's guy is not okay.
Thank You to the both of you! Great advice!! And thank you for the support as well. I feel like more woman should be on a girl team rather than against each other or competitive, but i guess our primal instinct can sometimes take over. I just want to be a better human being which means i'm constantly examining myself and getting to the core of why i do the things i do and really loving all of my faults so i can truly love myself and truly be a good person. I am faulted in so many ways, but am constantly striving to fight for the greater good.